Have you ever asked all of your friends if they are open to non-monogamy? I mean *all* of your friends.
When I had attended a safe sex party a number of years ago, I was single. A single man is not often welcome at sex parties and I wanted to attend again, so I just asked all of my female friends if they would be interested in attending a sex party, even as a “watcher” with no pressure to get naked or have any contact with anyone, 100% of them said yes! No lie! Every woman that I knew socially was at the very least curious, and none of them ruled out the possibility of playing at the party if they felt comfortable and found themselves turned on to somebody.
I was very surprised. No, really! It turns out that all you have to do is ask, and a pretty high percentage of women will totally shock you at what they’re willing to explore.
As a lecturer I often get into discussions about what percentage of people in the U.S. are involved in some form of open relationships. Most people seem to think the number is about 2-5%. My own opinion is around 20%, depending on the demographic, but that most of them do not share it openly.
So when I read this article about this online poll I was a bit surprised at the numbers they posted. Excerpt: “What was really interesting is that 51% of the people polled were either active in the swinging lifestyle or willing to try it while only 36% were strongly against it”
Now that’s what I like to hear!
Found you from Viviane. Please drop by, my entire blog is about various aspects of polyamory.